Lovin' our Elda Boone

Lovin' our Elda Boone
Massachusetts Boston 2012-2014

Monday, February 3, 2014

Congratulations Parker! Probably last email from Waterbury.

February 3, 2014
Hello everybody!
First thing's first-congrats to Parker on being baptized! 
Second thing-GO SEAHAWKS!!!! 43-8 is a heck of a game!

We had interviews with our Mission President on Wednesday, and I felt like I needed to ask him about my being transferred. He asked me, "Do you think you leaving will affect anyone's eternal salvation?" I told him that I'm not arrogant enough to say that nobody else in the Mission can do my job as good as or better than me, so technically no. Then President said, "Well, we'll put it this way-I've already got your picture off the wall." Of course, he said he wanted to move me last transfer, and that Sister Packard "about mollywhogged" him when he didn't move me, but we'll see I guess. I definitely don't want to leave, but I know that wherever I go, there will be another group of people for me to find. 

A couple of weeks ago, a member of the ward-Heather Halpin-passed away. Her memorial service was on Saturday, and I had a number of thoughts during the service, and afterwards as I reflected on it, that I would like to share. 

Heather had a hard life. She had several mental and physical disabilities that made life much harder for her than it needed to be. She spent quite some time in jail for various offenses, and made a lot of poor choices. However, her legacy is not a sum of her choices or wrongdoings or shortcomings. People repeatedly mentioned her determination to be better, to get up and try again each day. Setback after setback came her way, but she never let anything get her down. She knew (as Elder Holland puts it) that, "The past is to be learned from but not lived in. We look back to claim the embers from glowing experiences but not the ashes. And when we have learned what we need to learn and have brought with us the best that we have experienced, then we look ahead, we remember that faith is always pointed toward the future. Faith always has to do with blessings and truths and events that will yet be efficacious in our lives." Heather's determination to rise up and to try again stemmed from her faith that tomorrow WOULD be better, that it WAS in God's hands, and that He would help her get through whatever she needed to get through. She may have shown her faith a little differently than most folks, but she looked steadfastly to the future for blessings she knew the Gospel offered her.

Heather had a way of loving people that is difficult to describe. Though she lived in poverty for most of her life, she helped anyone and everyone who needed it. She had a collection of things that she had saved up and was going to give to someone less fortunate than her. She just loved people unconditionally. This was shown when she came to Church (or, more accurately, after Church) on the day she died. She got to the building, and was absolutely frantic, looking for her son. She found him there and hugged him like he was the only thing with meaning in her life. They had a great chance to just sit and talk for about 30 minutes, and she couldn't have been happier. I saw her with that same smile, giving that same hug to many others as they struggled with life's difficulties. Her empathy embraced so many people from so many walks of life, and she always found a way to make them laugh.

I also learned something about justice and mercy that I've never fully realized before. We learn from Alma 42:23 that "mercy claimeth the penitent." I looked up penitent and found this definition: willing to atone. Heather repeatedly told her Home Teacher that as much as she hated being in jail, it was better to pay for her sins now than to never be punished for them. Heather was willing to go to her own penitentiary-literal of figurative-to pay for her sins. She was truly penitent. Mercy could (and as far as I'm concerned, will) be extended to her, because she felt sorrow for her wrongdoings, and was always striving to make it right before others and our Father in Heaven. "God doesn’t care nearly as much about where you have been as He does about where you are and, with His help, where you are willing to go." (Jeffrey R. Holland, "Remember Lot's Wife") She was, and had been, in difficult circumstances for most of her life. But God saw where she was going; what she was trying to do and to become. Heather died trying to get Temple-worthy. Among other things, she had to quit smoking. She said so many times, "I want that cigarette so bad, but I want to go to the Temple more!" 

Sorry there's not much of an update on myself, but most of my thoughts recently have been on Heather and the lessons I've learned from her and her life. Thanks for all of your love and support, and I hope that all of y'all have a great week!


-Eldah Boone 

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